How would you like to become more popular and welcomed by people in your social or business circles?
Well, you can be, by learning how to be more charming in every interaction with others.
The deepest human need is the desire to feel important. When you go through life building self-confidence and making other people feel important and valuable, they will like you, welcome you, and open every door for you. This is how to become popular both professionally and personally.
If you are in business, becoming a charming person, making others feel important, will help you in every business situation, from negotiating terms to borrowing money to influencing key customers.
If you are in sales, the way customers feel about you, and feel when they are with you, will determine your level of sales and referrals more than any other factor.
In your personal, family and social life, learning to be more charming will make you more popular, desirable, influential and persuasive than any other quality.
How do you become a genuinely charming person? Here are five behaviors you can practice with every person to make him or her feel more important:
1. Smile In Every Interaction
Each person has a deep-down need to be accepted unconditionally by other people, without judgment or criticism.
And how to express this “unconditional positive regard?” Simple! Just smile. An open, honest, happy-to-see-you smile warms people’s hearts, makes them feel important, and causes them unconsciously to like you from the first moment.
2. Say “Thank You” Early And Often
Everyone loves to be appreciated for something, anything they have done for someone else.
When you say the magic words “Thank you” early and often, you make people feel important and happy, raise their self-esteem and increase their desire to help you and do things for you.
3. Give Genuine Compliments
Whenever you admire the possessions, traits or accomplishments of others, they automatically feel more important and valuable! As Abraham Lincoln said, “Everybody likes a compliment.”
Admire people’s choices in clothing, hairstyles, cars, briefcases, purses or office layout. Admire their homes or apartments. Admire their degrees or certificates. Whenever you compliment a person on something he or she has obviously invested time and emotion in achieving, you boost their self-image and build high self-esteem. As a result, they find you to be “charming.”
4. Give Praise And Approval Often
Give praise and approval generously, for both small and large accomplishments. Whenever anyone does anything worthwhile, tell them how good they are, and what a fine job they’ve done, building self-confidence and high self-esteem.
One definition of self-esteem is: How much a person feels praiseworthy.
When you praise your spouse and children, your staff and coworkers, your customers and suppliers, you make them feel more important, and cause them to see you as “charming.”
5. Give Them Your Full Attention
People feel valuable and important to the degree to which they are listened to and respected.
Whenever you listen closely to another person when he is talking, his self-esteem goes up. His brain releases endorphins, nature’s “happy drug,” and he feels good about being in your presence.
You always “pay value” to a person by listening attentively, by hanging on every word. When you do, he or she warms up to you and begins to find you “charming.”
Go through life looking for little opportunities to make people feel valuable and special. Smile at them as if you are glad to see them. Thank them regularly. Compliment them sincerely. Praise them lavishly. And listen to them when they speak building self-confidence and promoting high self-esteem.
Soon, almost without effort on your part, everyone will be talking about “what a charming person you are.”